This is an interesting incident that happened in a small village in England. Two naughty boys of the village always did adventurous mischief, some time the villagers had to bear loss. One day, these two stole a sheep and had roasted lamb as their feast. The villagers caught these two and were furious. The leaders of the village met to decide the punishment for these teenagers. The verdict was to tattoo the alphabet S T denoting Sheep Thief on their foreheads. Any one who sees would know them as thieves. These two guys were branded S T on their forehead.
One fellow saw that as humiliating, ran out of the village, drowned in a lake. Another boy also ran away from the village to a far away village. He was perturbed and terrified. A kind hearted man took him to his home. He heard the story, and said you can change your destiny. He mentored and coached him to grow up as a nice man.
This man grew up and taught village children every day. He became the most loved man of that village. One day a stranger visited the village and discovered this man was the naughty boy from his own village who was a thief. To humiliate him in public, this man from old village said to village people, “Do you know what this S T stands for?” The villagers especially children shouted: “S T stands for SAINT”. The man from old village was puzzled and shocked, did not open his mouth.
The man did not allow the villagers and their rude punishment shape his life, but transformed his life to give new meaning.
“And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” (Romans 8:28)
There is no written code
In the story, there was literally visible destiny sealed on these boys forehead. One believed it was true, final, unalterable and permanent, so decided to end his life. There are some who believe in ‘fatalism’- i.e. life is destined in a rigid foreordained course and human beings do not have power to alter it. In this belief they think there is unseen but written destiny or code for each person. When a person believes in fatalism, looses the will or desire to change his/her own circumstances or life. There is no written fate DNA or genetic code that is destined as personal history. One who believes in fatalism resigns himself to fate.
You need not be boxed
When a person sets limits or parameters by himself or allows circumstances to set parameters or beliefs to set boundary then that person is boxed or limited or chained. Poverty in material life does not determine a person’s future but poverty in thinking. During Tsunami relief work in a village near Chennai city, we discovered a young man with post graduate degree going out for fishing with other fishermen. When we enquired, why he did not go for a job in the city, he said, “I am destined to be a fisherman. I also do not know whom to approach for help.” He could not think outside the box – a life of fishermen village. Some times myths also ‘boxes’ a person.
You write your destiny
Life is full of choices. By choices, you write your own destiny or personal history. Human beings do not live by ‘instinct’ but by free will choices. Right choices leads to right destination of choice. You can choose what you can believe; you can choose what you can do. Some body says, “You are born in a poor family in a village, you cannot become an engineer.” If you choose to believe this, you can never become an engineer. The Former President of India, Abdul Kalaam was born in a poor family, but chose not to believe stereotypes, myths, and negative statements. He wrote his destiny to become as most loved scientist in India and then the President of the nation.
Accepting the status quo and refusing to believe in change will make a person paralyzed and unproductive. You should be agitated by the present status, believe in a better life, aspire and hope for that and strive with all strength to achieve it. Some people adapt to the life of misery and start feeling comfortable there, without realizing their true potential.
In a scientific experiment, frog was kept in a kettle with water. The kettle was very gradually heated the frog slightly felt the heat but did not bother. As the temperature increased, the frog did not realize it but adapted to the situation. After some time, it was dead as it was boiled in that water.
Take a list of things that you were agitated but now adapted. Things you are letting to invade your life, without realizing you are being choked.
Collect two stories similar to that of given in the beginning of this article from your life or your siblings or friends.